I remember in my early medical days, one of my seniors told me how important it is for us to suck up to the professor or the boss of a department for the specialty we want to specialise in. Afterall, it does make hell of a lot of a difference with or without that particular person’s recommendation. There are specialties like dermatology which is virtually impossible to get into. Or if you dream of becoming a neurosurgeon.
However, as I make my way into the real world, I noticed how true that is. In a rather large organisation (with over 2,000 employees), you would be lost if you don’t suck up to your superiors. Occasionally I would do lunch with friends, where there will be a few juniors eager to tag along, impress even me and pay for our lunch. Afterall, why burn the hand of those that feeds you.
Personally I have never been good at such things. Not before and I don’t think I will change either. It is not just an ego thing but I feel rather fake when suck up is needed. Friendship or bonding with superiors (I too had superiors before) should be born out of talent or quality of work rather than relationship.
But no matter how far you want to run, the reality of things are still the same. Even in blogosphere. One reason why I write this post is someone I chatted with on MSN recently asked me why I don’t leave comments on other people’s blog. I said, “I do leave messages but only on posts which I think is worth commenting.”
Well, I guess that’s life right?
i dont believe in sucking up……its prelude to bribery….
ront: unfortunately it is part and parcel of life. I don’t subscribe to it either, see how much of an outcast I can be?
that statement is only half true……
sucking up is not all appreciated everywhere….
as for not practising it….I live with a clearer conscience. being an outcast because one doesnt suck up? maybe you’re mingling with the wrong people.
conformity apparently is part and parcel of the majority in society, whether you like it or not. It is true that the good crowd are one that doesn’t give shit. Just take a look at blogosphere. Have you seen how people leave comments on other people’s blogs, ie sucking up?
really no idea what kind of benefit would one get from sucking up like that….by the way, if you feel this is a ’sucking up’ move …have to say you got the wrong message..hehehehe
conformity is another thing i hate to do….i only conform if i think it is the right thing to do.
ront: unfortunately the life we live in, rules are written by our predecessors. We can either conform or be some outcast. Apparently it is reasonable to be some outcast nowadays as i am personally practicing it as well.
spoken rules…..not forged in any writing…this brings back to our earlier conversation on what to pass on to the next generation….if you continue to condone/practice it…..it will be carried on to the next generations ….the change have to start somewhere
well, ront, like I say, i am an outcast. But how many outcast does it takes to change?
when there’s enough ‘outcast’ then its those who belongs to the inner circle becomes the real outcast.
hahaha.. I doubt I will live to see that day
like i said its gotta start somewhere.