In my previous posts, I wrote how the female folks should learn to understand guys more just as guys should understand female. It is a matter of reaching that equilibrium point and then sustain a long term relationship from there. For many, there is no extreme on either end. It is a matter of compromising with one another so that no party is ever forced to do something they do not like.
Having said that, I must qualify that statement in that there are an equal numbers of guys who are out to make use of girls and the same likewise with girls making use of guys. However it is usually the girls who takes guys as a piggy bank more than the other way round. Guys tend to pursue girls fervently with some aiming to get into the girls’ pants.
Somehow, I have known and seen many odd couples before. The guy a relatively rich fella (or maybe his dad is a rich fella) and the girl clinging on to the relationship because she gets to eat out in nice places, be driven around in nice car and basically enjoying a good life.
I have seen bloggers who claimed to have true love with the boyfriend doing silly antics. Love is not about satisfying another person’s material want. It is higher than that. It is about self sacrificing and loyalty with the aim of ultimately being a successful couple. So if a blogger can write about how boyfriend buy this and that even though she doesn’t want (it is a sign of first show off, then try to be modest about it), the equation becomes very unequal. Unless of course the guy is either a wimp who couldn’t find better girl friends, or the girl is a materialistic person who buzz around what she wants and basically exchange ahem ahem for the gifts.
Though I am assuming a lot of things but the truth of the matter is that most of the unequal relationships are like that. There is definitely some reasons which cannot be seen.
Honestly, I have seen guys who treat their girls like queens but definitely not through material needs. They do look after the girl’s material needs by buying bigger items like an apartment or a house under her name. So if you do see anyone that happens to fill the bill, do advise and hopefully the rectify the equation or in the longer term, one person will definitely lose out.
Yes, quite on the mark.
Traditionally, it is the males who are the jerks, who exchange promises of love for sex. Recently (and I am speaking from first-hand experience), girls have messed-up attitudes as well. They exchange sex for money. Now, if the jerks and the gold-diggers find each other, then I hope they’re happy together.
But for normal people who aspire to a prouder and respectable way of living, obviously these jerks and gold-diggers have disgraceful thinking. The fact of the matter is that - they can’t feel the joyous feeling of love!
When you’re in love, you’re happy all the time, vs. when you’re scheming on how to get more money or sex, you’re UNHAPPY all the time.
I had a friend who used to test if the girl was materialistic or not. He would drop her off to buy movie tickets on the pretext of looking for a car park in a crowded mall. If the girl demands every cent back from him later for the tickets, he would be very cautious. If she doesn’t demand anything back (her treat) he knows he has a good catch. Subjective but a rather good test nevertheless
I went out with a girl who would buy the tickets. Since it’s only less than RM20 for two. But she will expect the guy to pay for the RM100 dinner later. So my 2 cents is that it’s not a good test. Do you want to know a good test?
Just casually talk about materialistic girls in general, and see how she responds. If she a) does not view them negatively or b) quickly says she is not materialistic, then there is a large chance that she will treat you like an ATM.
sensual sophia and wasaw: materialistic girls.. i got another method of testing materialistic girls. Just try bringing them to shopping centre and see what their eyes are looking at. drive your worst car or borrow a half broken down kancil from a friend. normally you get to see the true colours quite readily.