let me ask you all, is it okay to share your bank card pin number with your bf/gf? husband/wife? father/mother? how far do you wanna push the privacy issue with the one closest to you?
the reason why i asked this question is because i don’t mind sharing my pin number even with the ah sam who sweeps the floor. coz inside only got RM2.37 so no problemo, you can take all you want.. errr.. i think minimum withdrawal is RM10 right? suck in.. so really i don’t mind. i had an ex-gf once who was sooooo protective of everything hers. she scared like hell if i accidentally saw her bank statement, credit card bills or if i see her keying her pin number on ATM. sure, she has hell of a lot more zeroes than me but does that mean she is afraid i will end up conning her money?
though i wasn’t exactly a gigolo, payments for meals were paid for by her, catching a movie, she pays, etc. but does that mean she will never let me know her pin number? such is the element of trust. okay maybe she has a hindsight that we would not last and so no point giving me the most personal of her things (oii… don’t think dirty.. i meant PIN NUMBER) or is it because she is paying for things, i ain’t supposed to check the source of things?
maybe it is the environment she was brought up in. her family belongs to one of those errr.. what you call old money. means many generations before already made money, so now the younger generations get to keep them sort of dynasty. everything was so secretive, like the company name the father own, why is it her father can play golf almost 365 days a year even though we need to slog it off.
But here begs the question, is it really important to keep secrets between a couple? should couple have their own space? i know my missus and i now both of us very open one. share one bank account. no other bank account. so she knows how much i make and i know how much she makes. i know how much is her bonus and how much i will be able to enjoy on her bonus in the coming year. which method would you choose?
if u have no money in the bank surely u will not mind to share it with your misses la . but i feel its better to be more open n transparent with the misses about wat u have n wat she have. still some man n woman will keep some money somewhere in the shoe box,books n biscuit box …]
lol.. no need to hide money lah.. if you start hiding and she start hiding, wah liao.. it is like playing hide and seek. joint account means two signature only can touch the money. a sure fire way of learning how to save money and it works coz everytime you wanna justify how to spend money.
i think tis boils down to trust lor, if you trust your partner enough, he/she will know yours and vice versa but when there’s no trust, how to reveal rite? excluding fat4’s case since his bank acct has only RM2.37, he doesnt mind revealing his PIN# to any pig dog tom, dick & harry
oiii.. u don’t look down on my RM2.37 leh.. can buy coca cola one worr. otherwise i fuel my addiction?
but i really think a relationship should be honest and open.